Unit 2 Notes (weeks 1-2)
Unit 2 Notes (weeks 1-2) FAD2230
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Molly Kitchen 2-8-2016 FAD2230 LECTURE NOTES BULDING RELATIONSHIPS (CH. 7) SINGLEHOOD Never married- doesn't mean that you're not in a serious or committed relationship Single- could be divorced or widowed How many stay single? o Single and never married are about the same percentage up to the 30's, where the percent of single becomes greater than the percent of never married as age increases Single typology: o Voluntary temporary- young, college-aged kids who are focused on other things (school) o Voluntary stable- chosen to stay single and is okay with it o Involuntary temporary- someone looking for a relationship but can't find one o Involuntary stable- someone who wanted to form a relationship but has resigned to the fact that it probably won't ever happen, or a widow/ widower who chooses not to remarry after his or her spouse's death FRIENDS This Emotional Life Video Friendships provide security, support, and a sense of belonging. They also help us solve problems and survive more efficiently. "You can still be lonely in a crowd," proves that connection past surface connections are important. Number of friendships between sexes are about the same and are held with the same value, but in general friendships between women are more intimate (more verbal and self-disclosing) whereas with men the relationships are more activity oriented. In the working class, friendships tend to be longer lasting and more personally intimate than those in the middle class. The working class tends to spend more time interaction to solve problems (work) than the middle class (vacations and independent work because of education). Hispanic and black youth are likely to have stronger friendships than Asian because the emphasis tends to fall on academics rather than social interactions. CROSS-SEX FRIENDSHPS Molly Kitchen 2-8-2016 They generally develop at school or work where the interaction between same sex individuals may be limited Discussion: Do you think that men and women can just be friends? Why or why not? Can a man and a woman have a stric friendship after they have already been in a relationship? Why or why not? Molly Kitchen 2/10/2016 FAD2230- LECTURE NOTES REVIEW Singlehood Never-Married vs. Single How many people stay single (4%) Single Typology (voluntary/ involuntary temporary/stable) Friendships can be beneficial Race and ethnicity in social relationships Cross-Sex relationship possibilities Micro vs. Macro level factors affecting relationships DATING Dating: mechanism of finding a lifelong mate in order to have companionship, to get married, to share similar interests and beliefs, fun and recreation, social status, intimacy (sexual or emotional), etc. Early American dating relationships: o Calling- spending time with the family for a couple days in order to get to know the young woman and her family o Necessity of marriage Industrialization, urbanization, and emergence of dating o Dating roles changed from what we knew in earlier America to these stigmas about guys asking the girls, paying for the date, driving, opening doors, and the girls are supposed to look pretty, maybe prepare the details for the date, etc. o The roles may be changing because women have jobs, so it is more acceptable for the women to help pay sometimes whereas then it was really taboo for the woman to pay. o Principle of Least Interest: unequal emotional involvement between romantic partners that has implications for the quality and stability of relationships The person with the least emotional involvement has more power in the relationship The less interested the person is the less fear they have of being rejected Dating scripts: a set of expectations around dating that differ somewhat for men and women o Women- go to the bathroom in pairs (for some reason), have to look a certain way o Men- ask, plan, pay How do you know when someone is in a committed relationship? o Facebook status o Time people spend together o Holding hands o Wedding ring/ engagement ring...Why don't guys have engagement rings? Roles of the man providing- asking- through the ring Molly Kitchen 2/10/2016 Dating trends o Teenagers don't really go on dates- just "hanging out" with a group of friends that creates less pairing off Homogamous relationships- in relationships with people who are similar to us (age, race, religion, social class, etc.) o Propinquity- living close to someone increases your chances of being in a relationship with them o Pool of eligible individuals- the amount of girls/ guys who are available to you within your location Where do we meet? Molly Kitchen 2-12-2016 FAD2230- LECTURE NOTES HETEROSEXUAL COHABITATION Cohabitation- an arrangement of two people who are living together without being married Who? o All groups o About 44% before marriage o From 2000 until now, the number has doubled Why? o Convenience o Financial o Assess compatibility for marriage o Avoid marriage expectations (long term commitment) o Extension of dating o Marriage alternative In a survey, overall, 46% of all groups think that cohabitation isn't really a huge difference between marriage. Cohabitation effect- association between premarital cohabitation and pooper marital outcomes o Pooper marital communication in general o lower marital satisfaction o higher domestic violence risk o greater probability for divorce (people who are willing to cohabitate are more willing to end a marriage as well) Children in cohabitation o 40% have kids (married and cohabiters) o Effect depends on alternatives (i.e. single mom, mom and partner, step- parents, etc.) o Child outcomes: parents who are married have kids who perform better in academics, psychotically, socially, behaviorally, and father involvement relationship Commitment Theory o Dedication - idea of togetherness and shared meaning; loyal, long- term commitment o Constraint- pressures to remain in the relationship even if they don't want to; financial constraints; children o Sliding vs. Deciding- slowly start to live together = sliding (sleep over, leave things, etc.) vs. sitting down and having a talk about what exactly is happening = deciding People who decide instead of slide have much less problems than those who slide (kind of mimics marriage as a whole vs. cohabitating as a whole) GAY AND LESBIAN RELATIONSHIPS APA (American Psychological Association) determined that most gays and lesbians are in a committed relationship Molly Kitchen 2-12-2016 0.6% of population of households Gay men have less desire to marry (tends to be the case with heterosexual males as well) Similar outcomes to heterosexual couples on outcomes Molly Kitchen 2-15-2016 FAD2230 LECTURE NOTES LOVE AND LOVING RELATIONSHIPS What is love? o commitment o self-sacrifice o affection o patience class def. o optimism o perseverance o deep bond ...toward another person/ between two people o strong affection for one another arising out of kinship or personal ties o attraction based on sexual desire o affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests book def. o enduring bond between two people o includes feelings of obligation to another attachment- a strong emotional bond; safe haven or secure base Video about monkey experiment with wire mother verses cloth mother...goes to cloth mother consistently; "Harlow's Monkeys" Working Models (way that we perceive ourselves and others)- Adult Attachment Styles o Self positive- worthy of attention, acceptance and love negative- unworthy of attention, acceptance, or love o Other positive- trustworthy, caring, and accessible negative- untrustworthy, uncaring, and rejecting HISTORY OF LOVE Molly Kitchen 2-15-2016 Classical stories o Odyssey Early Christianity o love didn't always mean marriage o marriage was practical o sex was for procreation only 18th & 19th centuries o romantic love more prominent o romantic love ideals love at first sight only one "true love" per person love conquers all the beloved is nearly perfect should marry for love 19th century Victorian period o men and women in separate spheres o sexual behavior- only vaginal intercourse between man and women 20th century o love and sexuality mandatory o sexual expression basis of marriage Contemporary love o romantic love: characterized by passion, melodrama, and excitement o Other cultures may think of romance as silly and unnecessary o Our culture views it as utmost importance (when it's not there then the relationship is lost) o Not that important...or is it? Companionate love: type of love that grows over time and is based on strong commitment, friendship, and trust Molly Kitchen 2-17-2016 FAD2230 LECTURE NOTES THEORESTICAL PERSPECTIVE ON LOVE Why is it important to understand the following: o theories of love o love types o how love develops to know if we are in a healthy relationship to get another perspective about what a relationship should be like Sociobiological perspective- evolutionary theory that all humans have an intinctive impulse to pass on genetic material o people we marry women- older men, higher status to support and protect men- younger women, most fertile Biochemical perspectives of love- humans are attracted to certain types of people, at which point the brain releases natural chemicals that give us a rush we experience as sexual attraction Micro level perspectives Sternberg's theory of love- sees love as having three elements: intimacy, passion, and commitment Molly Kitchen 2-17-2016 John Lee's styles of love- categorization of six types of love that describe how couples are attracted to one another Reiss's wheel theory of love- how love develops
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