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Study Guide for Small Talk and Social Attraction (test 2)

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Study Guide for Small Talk and Social Attraction (test 2) COM 225

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Covers what you need to know and key concepts with some actual test questions
Interpersonal Communication
Scott Murszewski
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small talk, social attraction, humor, opening lines, sex and gender
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This 4 page Study Guide was uploaded by Bennett Notetaker on Tuesday March 22, 2016. The Study Guide belongs to COM 225 at University at Buffalo taught by Scott Murszewski in Spring 2016. Since its upload, it has received 40 views. For similar materials see Interpersonal Communication in Communication at University at Buffalo.


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Date Created: 03/22/16
What’s the difference between sex and gender?  Sex= a person’s biology, your physiological characteristics  Gender= how a person identifies themselves/ learns to perform based on their sex Know the six different theories:  Male Dominance  Different Cultures  Different Skills  Social Rules  Biological Factors  Minimal Difference Male Dominance Theory:  Men have historically held more social power than women o “Men need to be more aware of their domineering positions towards women”- this is the take away of this theory! Different Cultures Theory:  Basically states that because little boys and girls play segregated from one another they develop different communication rules since they grow up differently o Little boys- learn to value power o Little girls- learn to value sharing and cooperation o The take away from this theory is “Women and men need to understand and appreciate each other’s communication styles” Different Skills Theory: o Says that men and women don’t differ in values but rather men and women value the same values o Women are better than men at receiving and giving nonverbal messages since they’re better listeners o The take away of this theory is “Men need to better develop their skills and may need assistance in doing so” Social Rules Theory: o Men are expected to fulfill the masculine gender role and women are expected to fulfill the feminine gender role because the different social roles gained due to division of labor and gender roles which develop concerning expectations about behaviors o Think “classic” gender roles where women cook and clean and men go work and make the money o The take away of this theory is “You’d have to be crazy to give up the gender of power for the gender of powerlessness” Biological Factors Theory: o Looks at cognitive differences in brain structure to see how sexes translate behavior differently based on their hormones o The take away of this theory is “Men and women may not be from different planets, but they are on different drugs” What is small talk characterized by? o It’s a balance, it’s important to know a variety of ways to make conversation with someone you know or someone you just met Know that Godsmith and Baxter found that there are six types of trivial talk: o Gossip o Making plans o Joking around o Catching up o Small talk o Recapping the day’s events o Importance of this is PHATIC COMMUNION- talking just to talk because you’re afraid of awkward silences Know Conversational Narcissism: o Someone who talks about themselves all the time and relates everything back to them because they believe they are the most important thing on Earth Know the topic of social attraction: o It’s our tendency to evaluate someone in a positive way consistently o Think about why this is important (hint: relationship formation) Know the two types of sociosexual orientation based on the evolutionary theory: o Restricted Sociosexual orientation o Unrestricted Sociosexual orientation Social Exchange Theory: o It quantifies how we see each other o People want more rewards in a relationship o Compare amount of satisfaction in your relationship to others is our decision-making process when looking for a partner Key strategies associated with social attraction: o General self-presentation o Proximity o Humor o Praise o Similarity o Opening lines o Avoidance o Listening o Disclosure- talking about yourself Know about self-presentation: o General physicality- physical attractiveness is important at first and then becomes less important once you get to know someone better o Confidence- is a primary precursor to social attraction and is true for both men and women o Know the tilting head example (in notes) comparison between when men do it verse when women do it Self-Confidence and Bullying: o The higher the status of someone the more of a bully they are (hint: Donald Trump) o Note: this is only true till you reach the highest level of social status Eye contact: o More eye contact is generally better and it increases attraction however under negative circumstances show less eye contact Scarcity & Reactance Theory: o When you put these together it can suggest that playing hard to get with little eye contact can lead to a lot of attraction once you finally meet Know smiling: o “Big Bang Theory” video clip of Sheldon’s creepy smile o Typically smiling is more attractive Strategic Movement: o Speaking into someone’s right ear makes them more likely to agree or comply (test question) and hearer’s are more likely to offer their right ear Instrumental nonverbal: o The color red is more attractive o Resources like power and status are attractive to women and men care more about appearance Proximity: o Know the more exposure effect o We like people close to us o Can also be contempt though- may lead to frustration Humor: o Be cautious you don’t want to offend anyone Praise: o Know why it works and the dos and don’ts Similarity: o Breeds liking- proves we aren’t alone Opening lines: o There are three types- flippant, direct, innocuous o Flippant- convey interest with humor (rated most negative) o Direct- convey interest with sincerity and flattery (“it took a lot of courage to approach you”)- rated as most effective o Innocuous- starts conversation with simple questions or statements (“I think I’ve seen you before are you from around here”) Avoidance: o Playing hard to get can actually make someone more attractive (we want what we can’t have)


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