Communications COM 314
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Friends with Benefits and Jealousy COM 314 Definition: when 2 people become involved with each other sexually but do not desire to move into a relationship Benefits: sex without responsibilities and no commitment This defies the assumption that sex can coexist in a friendship without further leading to more intimacy in a relationship together Motives for a FWB relationship: o Relationship avoidance, not wanting one o Getting sex o Wanting a simple relationship o Intimacy o Being curious The kinds of LOVE o Storgic evolves from friendship o Agapic selfless and all giving o Manic Obsessive o Pragmatic Practical o Ludic “lets play a love game” (best for FWB) o Erotic all about romance Boundaries o Sex rules no this no that o Communication rules o Secrecy rules who do we tell o Permanence rules how long for o Emotional rules o Friendship rules Most people agree that setting rules are important but rarely do people in the relationship actually set any… this is a problem. Four reasons why this happens: o Conversation defeats the purpose o Nobody wants to seem clingy, especially the women o People don’t want to seem emotional o When one partner wants to talk the other doesn’t JEALOUSY Definition a negative emotion that masks some inner insecurities, it can often mimic anger; there are many positive and negative consequences. We like for others to feel jealous over us, but hate feeling jealousy ourselves. When jealousy is good and there is partner enhancing: o Renegotiation of rules and boundaries o Expressing and sharing the jealous feelings o Getting and asking for explanations o Increases nonverbal communication and intimacy When jealousy is bad and there is partner attacking o Blaming one another o Complaining o Threats o Sarcasm that can be misunderstood o Revenge o Guilt o Throwing an object at the other o The silent treatment o Verbal/ Physical Aggression 6 interactive responses to jealousy o Active distancing o Negative Expressions shown on the face o Violence either in communication or physical o Integrative Communication where you can reach an understanding o Cursing and Arguing… (Distributive Communication) o Denial and Avoidance The positive consequences of jealousy: o Can show love and affection o May increase attraction for one another o Increase pursuit o Can inspire passionate feelings o May reiterate how much one values his or her partner o Increase appreciation for one another o Increase commitment for one another The negative consequences of jealousy: o Relational dissatisfaction o Breaking up o Violence o Feeling of fear, frustration, sadness, anger, guilt…
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