Communication COM 313
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Communicating Identity and Attraction COM 313 ID is the person you think you are and the person you communicate to everyone else. Why are we studying ID in a close relationship class? o Your ID is a relational which means that it is based on relationships The Communication Theory of ID Personal Frame when we have the power over our ID Enactment Frame the ID that is constructed with interactions with other people Relational Frame what we get with repeated interactions in a relationships that builds an ID over time Communal Frame the ID that is influenced by cultural norms Self Expansion Theory: we grow and expand our ID with our close relationships with others, a visual example is to think of merging You communicate your ID all the time! SelfPresentation involves the things that you do to help portray a certain image that you want of yourself, like when you maximize your strengths and minimize your weaknesses. o Self Monitoring High vs. Low o Online Self Presentation: Broadcasters Interactors Spies o Politeness Theory: the theory of ID management and us wanting to protect our and others ID or face Positive Face image of being likeable, valued Negative Face image of being in control of life, independent Remember that positive and negative does not mean good and bad! o Sometimes people threaten each others faces Face Threatening Acts: this is when someone says or does something that calls into question someone’s likeability or independence Politeness Strategies to help minimize offending some others o Reinforce the persons likeability and value to minimize you looking mean positive politeness o Give the persons option to minimize you looking bossy negative politeness o Hint around at the idea that is threatening off record o Shit your mouth and do not say anything and get over it o Be direct and risk offending someone bald on record Corrective FaceWork repairing the image o Avoid it and hope no one notices o Use humor to try and lighten the current situation o Apologize o Try to excuse your behavior account o Do something to make up for it reparation o Damage someone else’s image in return aggression Attraction Pheromones: Chemical Signals that indicate reproductive and genetic readiness. What happens to your body’s chemistry during a first kiss? Your body goes into its fight or flight response. Types of Attraction: o Physical appearances o Task They are useful for something that they can do for you o Social we like who they seem to be to us What predicts attraction? o Similarity’s – this breeds attraction With this we are attracted to others who… Have similar attitudes to us Reinforcement model they reinforce our attitudes Share our same communication skills with the differential importance explanation of more or less Match us in physical attractiveness the matching hypothesis, wanting someone the same number as us o Complementarity meaning opposites attract We want someone with different behaviors and resources but not beliefs and values. This relationship works better with casual relationships. Fatal Attraction: the same qualities that draw us in are the same ones to make us leave. o This is most likely to happen when: They are completely opposite Personality is extreme The person is a narcissist o Why does fatal attraction happen? They cast their positive qualities more than their negative ones People usually hide or ignore their negative qualities o Guidelines for boosting attraction: Always play up your rewarding aspects Violate peoples expectations, but in a good way Communicate warmth, sociability, strength, and other things but only if you are willing to keep up with it Be the person you want to attract
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