1/21 GRNT 2124-001
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This 2 page Class Notes was uploaded by Marisa Abate on Friday February 19, 2016. The Class Notes belongs to GRNT 2124-001 at University of North Carolina - Charlotte taught by Maria-Carl Chiarella in Winter 2016. Since its upload, it has received 13 views. For similar materials see Psychology of Adult Development and Aging in Public Health at University of North Carolina - Charlotte.
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Date Created: 02/19/16
1/21 Postive exchanges -Enhancing love maps: ones mental image/schema of ones spouse -things you know about them -keep adding to the info you learn -Nurturing fondness and admiration: Identifying cherished qualities of ones partner - can i come up with them? -Turning towards each other: connecting with ones spouse -where/how do we connecting? -connecting over minor incidents -bids for attention -accepting inﬂuences: sharing power -decision making - letting everyone have a say -can we hear each other out? Solving Solvable Problems: preventing negativity from escalating during conﬂict resolution -small day-to-day stuff - de-escalate -repair attempts Overcoming gridlock: exploring the underlying issues contributing to conﬂict -psychological -Whats REALLY going on Creating shared meaning: creating an inner life together -spiritual dimension -rituals or behaviors Negative exchanges THE 4 HORSEMEN OF THE AOCALYPSE -Criticism: stating ones complaint as a defect in ones partner’s personality - see it as a ﬂaw or defect -“you are messed up” -namecalling -Contempt: Commenting as if from a position of superiority -put-downs -“im better than you” -Defensiveness:Self protection(righteous indignation or innocent victimhood) -“ How daring you think i’d…” -you’re appalled -“poor me” -“i didn't mean to do that” -Stonewalling: emotional withdrawl from interaction -WHATEVER -indifferent,minimally reacting to a person -shutting down CONTEMPT IS THE GREATEST SIGN OF DIVORCE Good Marriages Validating: show mutual respect when disagreement listening and supporting Volatile:often disagree, but are PASSIONATE, with the positives out weighing the negatives ex. sitcoms Avoidant: agree to disagree
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