Psyc 474, Week 7 notes
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Chapter 8 Relationships and communication ABC(DE)’s of romantic relationships o Attraction: having a crush on someone, finding them appealing o Building: dating, building a friendship o Continuation: defining the relationship, officially becoming friends with someone. o Deterioration: a relationship or friendship going downhill. o Termination (ending): breaking up with someone or ending a friendship. Social exchange theory: weighing the rewards and costs of a relationship. Small talk: relationship building by finding common ground. o This is started by a greeting and eye contact. Selfdisclosure: revealing personal information about oneself to someone else, whether it is a friend, relative, or significant other. Surface contact: seeking common ground with a person to test compatibility. Regardless of assigned sex, people who are more feminine are likely to disclose personal information in relationships than people who are more masculine. Mutuality: people having similar feeling toward each other in relationships. Ex: mutual couple love, mutual friend love, mutual family love. Intimacy: sharing personal information with another person. o Doesn’t require romantic love o Emotional intimacy is different from sexual intimacy. People can emotionally intimate with friends, relatives, or lovers. o Absence of intimacy can cause harm to a person’s physical, emotional, and psychological health. Mutual cyclical growth: people grow in a relationship together and become close over time. Caring: creating an emotional bond by wanting to satisfy someone else’s needs or make them happy. Some people find it easier to open up to a stranger than the people they are closest to. Intimate relationships are often marked by a commitment. Men are typically more reluctant to make a commitment than women. Factors contributing to the ending of a relationship include boredom, bickering, forgetting important dates, lack of effort, dissatisfaction, and jealousy. Jealousy occurs when one believes something or someone else is threatening their relationship. Jealousy is normal, but if it’s doing serious harm to the relationship, it is obsessional jealousy. Men are usually more upset by sexual cheating, whereas women are usually more upset by emotional cheating. People are less jealous when their significant other cheats with someone of the same sex. Responses to jealousy: o Destructive communication: communicating through insults, threats, and violence. o Constructive communication: using it to strengthen the relationships. o Avoidance: not talking about feelings of jealousy. o Rivalfocused communication: possessing or stalking their significant other to catch them cheating. o Since most people divorce or delay marriage, many relationships will end. o Relationships end when the costs outweigh the rewards. Active methods include trying to fix the relationship or break up. Passive methods: doing nothing or waiting for the significant other to break up with them. Stalking: obsessively bothering an ex. Ex: significantly calling or texting. Loneliness: feeling sad because one is alone. Solitude: choosing to be alone for selfgrowth reasons. Loneliness usually peaks during adolescence because of peer influence. Lonely people often have many physical, emotional, and psychological problems. They also respond more negatively to stress. Lonely people usually lack social skills, lack interest in people, lack empathy, fear rejection, are afraid to open up to people, rush relationships, are pessimistic, and blame their failures on others. Couples who communicate conflicts calmly and respectfully have more relationship satisfaction than those who communicate defensively or try to avoid conflict. Stonewalling: giving the silent treatment to your partner. Good techniques to use during communication include humor, empathy, affection, mutual effort, and listening nondefensively.