Love and Intimacy
Love and Intimacy Psych 2070
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Chapter 7 Love and Intimacy Theories of Love 0 Triangular Theory of Love Sternberg 0 Three main components of love I Intimacy closeness with another person I Liking love intimacy by itself I Passion sexual attraction physical arousal excitement 0 Infatuated love passion by itself I Commitment making decision of wanting relationship to continue I empty love no liking or attraction stay together because they have to O Consummate love combined together I Normal to switch between consummate and companionate love I Colors of Love Lee 0 Three primary styles I Eros physical and romantic love 0 High arousal and physical contact 0 Heartbeat increase sweaty I Strong attraction can fade over time 0 Emotional highslows common 0 Sad when apart I Storge companionship friendship I Security and friendship 0 Emotional highs lows unlikely stable When separated I Ludus game playing playful 0 Thrill of the chase 0 Low intimacy low commitment 0 Likes to play the field don t want a relationship With person 0 Three secondary styles I Mania eros amp ludus possessive love addicted to love 0 Dramatic love for someone exciting and dangerous 0 High levels of physical attraction I High game playing manipulation I Agape eros amp storge unselfish or altruistic love unconditional I Others needs before your own I Pragma ludus amp storge criterionbased partner selection I Values and goals over physical attraction 0 shopping list love meet requirements Origins of Love 0 Behavioral Reinforcement I We love because another person reinforces positive feelings in ourselves 0 The more they create positive feelings more feelings for them I Love is a result of many mutually reinforcing activities 0 Does not explain complicated abusive relationships 0 Cognitive Theories I A behavior occurs and then we interpret it aslove 0 How we interpret signs from thoughts I If we think someone likes us we are more prone to find them attractive 0 If they do bad things will not find them attractive or love them 0 Evolutionary Theory I We love in order to produce offspring I Heterosexual men want healthy women to carry offspring I Heterosexual women want men with resources to care for her and offspring I Limitation does not account for homosexual relationships and those who do not want children 0 Physiological Arousal Theory I Physiological arousal is labeled with an emotion such as love I Heartrate increase sweaty palms and label with emotion I We are more likely to experience love when we are physiological aroused for any reason I Childhood 0 Attachment to the caregiver can affect attachment throughout life I Attach to caregiver and if the giver is response secure neglects insecure or inconsistent preoccupied I May be harder to be intimate with another as adult if did not experience as child I Style can be modified throughout life 0 Childhood attachment styles may in uence type of intimate relationships we form as adults I Adolescence 0 Time to learn how to love manage emotions I Test out different ways to express 0 Creates foundation for adult relationships I Witnessing abuse can lead to abusive relationship to express love 0 Role repertoire way they act and behavior is experimented with others to see how they interact O Intimacy repertoire way they express intimacy with others to continues style as they inter adulthood I If sex is first expression and works will continue style in adulthood 0 Adult Love and Intimacy 0 Fields of eligible who is available for the relationship I Proximity people you know see often more likely to be an any relationship with someone when they are physically closer I Similarity background values attitudes does not really work for opposite people because want to have similarities in important aspects of relationship happiness I Physical attraction matching hypothesis tend to end up with people Who have similar level of attractiveness but does not hold for everyone 0 If not equally attractive they have mating vale economic humor personality etc value 0 If don t match at all Will not last I Personality openness sociability humor valued more for long term relationships because want a kind gentle person I Mutual attraction and love want to be together and have feelings for each other 0 Ideal qualities are consistent across gender culture and sexual orientation women and men in many cultures look for great personality in another to a longterm relationship 0 Dark side of Jealousy 0 Interpretation and emotional reaction that a relationship is threatened I Feel that we will lose something that we already have I Envy wanting something you don t have OMost jealous if the person we believe is threatening the relationship has qualities we want for ourselves I better version of yourself and want to be in their position I Reactive having emotional reaction because you see it and feel threatened normal I Suspicious emotional reaction that there is a threat when it does not exist not real OMore common with low selfesteem correlation with jealousy 0 General findings on sexual and emotional infidelity I Sexual sex physical attraction contact with another person I Emotional emotional connection with another person I In longterm relationships 0 Men report more jealousy with sexual infidelity 60 I Women report more jealousy with emotional infidelity 83 0 Many theories Why findings are different evolutionary etc I Both genders 0 More threatened by sexual infidelity in shortterm relationships 0 More threatened by emotional infidelity in longterm relationships