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S. Rightmire

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This 1 page Class Notes was uploaded by Jewel Pfannerstill on Thursday October 22, 2015. The Class Notes belongs to LING 12 at University of California Santa Barbara taught by S. Rightmire in Fall. Since its upload, it has received 30 views. For similar materials see /class/226918/ling-12-university-of-california-santa-barbara in Linguistics at University of California Santa Barbara.




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Date Created: 10/22/15
Imago at a Glance The Imago Relationship Fitness QampA Hanille Hendrix1 Why is my partner so annoying at times We fall in love with someone and imagine that now at last life will be full of peace joy companionship and hope But after a while we often become aware that our partner seems to stand in the way of us achieving our own dreams of peace and ful llment We become angry with our partner because we feel they aren t able to provide what we expected of them when we fell in love And now we are committed to them we can t get those things from someone else either They stand between us and the life we dreamed of That can make us very angry and frustrated Why doesn t my partner love me a little better In our dreams maybe we imagine the perfect partnerto be the one who we fall in love with and it carries on that way for ever They understand us so well they are there for us when we need them saying the right words providing the right support that we need Perhaps in our dreams we don t have those big arguments or disappointments It really is happily ever after Why couldn t we nd that perfect partner Maybe we secretly long that our partner was a little bit quieter or noisier We wish they were more generous or better with money We wish they liked sex more or left us alone occasionally There s a reason why we fall in love with the partner who doesn t seem quite able to match our dreams We see in them an ability to love us in a way that we learned from people who loved us in our earliest years We recognize that kind of ability to love in the partner we choose But however strongly we were loved there was always a little bit of love we didn t get And it turns out that this partner we choose isn t very good at providing that bit of love either just like those who loved us when we were children That bit of love we didn t get as children often goes back to some painful memories from childhood When our partner can t love us that way either it touches some tender spots inside and can bring out some ofour deepest fears that we may have tried for years to hide away 1Egtltcerptedfrom1hliv quot 39 39 39 39rifitnessjaqhtml7


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