chapter 11 & 12
chapter 11 & 12 HDFS 1600
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Thursday December 24 y HDFS Chapter 11 Communication in Relationships Marriages amp Families Communication and Barriers to communication Family conflicthow they were raised and what they witnessed often influences the way they handle differences especially when high emotionsintense emotions are involved Conflict Physiologically what happens to our bodies when we become stressed prepare for disagreements and engage in conflict fight flight or freeze a perceived threat initiates a reaction in our bodies that affects our ability to reason and communicate Triggers External internal Simply mentally replaying an incident Our physical and emotional condition HALT can influence our sensitivity to some triggers How threats affect our mind and bodies Escalation our body prepared for action Our adrenal glands flood our bodies with adrenaline and other chemicals enter the blood stream Breathing becomes rapid and shallow Heart pounds blood pressure rises Muscles become more tense jaws shoulders face hands chest throat Thursday December 24 y Voices become strained Crisis we engage in verbal andor physical action fight or flight Overwhelming wish of adrenaline tunnel vision difficult to hear or care our ability to think reason or communicate is minimal Recovery depends on physiological and psychological makeup intensity of the response and how ling we dwell on it Adrenaline and other chemicals dissipate Oxygen is restored to the forebrain Post crisis heat rate drops below normal to counter the increase in chemicals be predicted beset on the first minutes of the interestien 39 Where along this line is it beet to halt nermal cenfliet before it escalates tie a crisis Examine our thoughts and 6amp9 behavior feel guilty depressed May avoid the person andor the Thraat Runaway Reflereeeeter Issue Building positivity 51 five positives for every negative Thursday December 24 y 3393quot a r llmportent as Verbal Nunverbal eemmunieetien a IFeeiiel expreeeiene Eye cente ct Gestures Teuelh If I H Ely iv QE39Q39EJ Ul39 i v39v 39 I m an 19 y I I I quot I Things that i like ebut my pa SE 939 m fall away ID m changei Imunieetien ie henverbal Things de net like elbeut my then peeple like ebeut 30 at their partner and never will change dislike 20 Things d net like elbeut my happens when we 7 ca mange think and telk elbeut the 7 i 7 TF IZEEE 20 we tienf t lillte f What lhelpene when we egggjr think and talk a let eheul the 313 that we die like Manage perpetual problems 69 same issues year after year part of our personality Solvable problems 31 Chapter 11 continued Four types of marital relationships Warm or friendly high at showing signs of affection low antagonism Tempestuous or stormy high on affection and antagonism Bland or empty shell low affection and antagonism Hostile or distressed low on affection but high on antagonism Levels of communication Superficial Personal Validating Each involves a level of risk Active listening Thursday December 24 y Paying close attention to what the other person is saying and giving feedback checking it out Gottman listener backchannels ways of letting the person talking know you39re listening with body language at the heart of who we are as humans we have a deep longing for belonging a desire to be loved and a craving for connection How do emotional connections develop Dr Dave39s pool theory of connection Relationships are built by adding to the pool cup by cup how do they lose water Neglectevaporation if connections are not continually strengthened we will naturally drift apart quotRelation dehydrationquot LoyaHyleaks Lack of commitment broken trust emotional and sexual affairs Dippingsaying something mean and nasty Thursday December 24 y HDFS Chapter 12 Power and Violence in Families POWER is the ability to exercise one s wi mam Moira Est mics belted an 3 year rnl ling averages ticglintan in we Serious Hitlent uictimi tion by victim39s 51nndvittima ender violent Ll39ilrli lidsz up 9 5251A fund JIL IUbUE39fp mid 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labor Allocation of money Partners sense of empowerment Objective measures of power Subjective measures of fairness Six Bases of Power CoerCiVe POWer based on dominant partner s ability to punish partner with psychological emotional or physical abuse ReWard POWer based on ability to give material or nonmaterial gifts and favors Thursday December 24 y EXPth POWer stems from dominant partner s superior judgement knowledge of ability Informational IOOWer based on the persuasive content of what the dominant partner tells another individual Referent POWer based on less dominant partner s emotional identification with the dominant partner I III U l U U39UHII ll IllaJUL r Spouse with more resources has more 39 Legitimate power based On patquotJet in the martiage individual s ability to claim authority Criticism Focuses on background characteristics resources and doesn t consider how partners interact E I I I V I V I I I Control over money research on couple s oxplelne mental power only when there is no overriding egalitarian or allocation SYStemS Whether they p00 patriarchal norm their money together and who controls pooled or separate money Cohabitant and those previously divorced are especially likely to maintain separate money Gender still plays a song role with men inst3W6 39U Ui HUI W I 3936 seeming to retain more control overthe WSI EMABS I famlly s income and are especrally likely to retain personal spending money quot is Donor I 2 II lin r l eh liifi 39 115 EHWHWLJIEMEE quot 1Elni I E FEE 12 139 i ThreePhase Cycle of Domestic Violence E39EEIHEIMIE MB UEE L i547 quot u i an I r 1 7 IV V J 39 in rams t h u r V 39 39stt a 39 I i I U I I Lr39 F u Fu39nr Id I V IHTII39I39I IDMTIEIH I JSJ It 1 1 H quot quotquot 7 7 33 39 EVE IIL L39 ir my i WEE quott v Min 5quot initial violent episode usually a shock ILIEIPIE M LE Pil39t39llLEE E H39I v39l I i 9 Hana tI39l 39ditl J Promises from man and woman attempts to understand her actions that caused the violence ett l 5 EH SE Err mere Ell MG IEH Ii Ellie Fltl quota 7Ir 1 iquot ill Elquot amp ir JlI 1 tension over minor disagreement builds over time tension building Shawnee 2 situation escalates ening with violent episode acute incident Thursday December 24 y 3 Man becomes contrite treats woman lovingly honeymoon effect DOMESth ASSaUI t commits the Violence in domestic assau f Spouse 2 34 v E 25 Other ame A Three Types of Violence Eraspouse a 17 Sibling E 12 patriarchalintimate terrorism mostly maIe 0an Child 5 11I controls the partner through fear and Parem 5 intimidation both physical and emotional abuse Violent resistantsecondary aggression 96 women Situational ViOlenCe mutual violence that occurs in conjunction with a specific argument Less likely to escalate still can be serious less frequent than PT occurs out of angerfrustration rather than as a means to gain control and power Correlates of Family Violence lPV intimate partner violence perps and victims tend to have the following young adults cohabiters less integrated with familycommunity substance abuse stress financial lifestyle parenting poverty psychological struggles witnesses or experiences DV 30 transmission rate vs 24 o Thursday December 24 y intimate lPartner Violnce Why do Women Stay fear Combating lFW l Realize it occurs frequently 2 Condemn it as wrongl Many are embarrassed to talk about it cultural norms 3r Support shelters ove Why not leave 1 Many if many divorce e violence as a reason economic dependence llor divorce was cited by 22 of middle class women and 44 of lower SE3 women in one study IOUtCDWIES of physical abuse hOpeS for reform Disrupted attachments Social 8 motional withdrawal gendered socralrzatlon avoidance 3 School problems actual drops in IQ increased rates of learning disabilities depression childhood Angler aggression Some repeat the cycle WISH DEIIEFIl g EMU Lallillll l HDUSB EUIHL Outcomes oi sexual abuse Depression Selfaxdestructiye tendences Bodily disturbances lt3 dissociation Negative selli concpt Interpersonal relationship dit iculties Reyictimiaation Sexual problems expenences low selfesteem HUIJAE IIIIH HI mu Vlllllllu l39 IIJLIIIJU HUI IL Role of alcohol Children whose parents use drugs or alcohol are almost 3 times more likely to be abused and 4 times as likely to be neglected Children exposed prenatally to illicit drugs are 23 times more likely to be abused or neglected II II II 11h 39LEJ Ii Research has demenetreted that 5 preteetive tasters can he Nurturing and attachment Knewlee ef parenting and child and yeuth deuipment Parental resilience Seeiei eenneetieris Concrete eupperts for parents Thursday December 24 y Five protective Factors