chapter 11 & 12
chapter 11 & 12 HDFS 1600
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Thursday December 24 y HDFS Chapter 11 Communication in Relationships Marriages amp Families Communication and Barriers to communication Family conflicthow they were raised and what they witnessed often influences the way they handle differences especially when high emotionsintense emotions are involved Conflict Physiologically what happens to our bodies when we become stressed prepare for disagreements and engage in conflict fight flight or freeze a perceived threat initiates a reaction in our bodies that affects our ability to reason and communicate Triggers External internal Simply mentally replaying an incident Our physical and emotional condition HALT can influence our sensitivity to some triggers How threats affect our mind and bodies Escalation our body prepared for action Our adrenal glands flood our bodies with adrenaline and other chemicals enter the blood stream Breathing becomes rapid and shallow Heart pounds blood pressure rises Muscles become more tense jaws shoulders face hands chest throat Thursday December 24 y Voices become strained Crisis we engage in verbal andor physical action fight or flight Overwhelming wish of adrenaline tunnel vision difficult to hear or care our ability to think reason or communicate is minimal Recovery depends on physiological and psychological makeup intensity of the response and how ling we dwell on it Adrenaline and other chemicals dissipate Oxygen is restored to the forebrain Post crisis heat rate drops below normal to counter the increase in chemicals be predicted beset on the first minutes of the interestien 39 Where along this line is it beet to halt nermal cenfliet before it escalates tie a crisis Examine our thoughts and 6amp9 behavior feel guilty depressed May avoid the person andor the Thraat Runaway Reflereeeeter Issue Building positivity 51 five positives for every negative Thursday December 24 y 3393quot a r llmportent as Verbal Nunverbal eemmunieetien a IFeeiiel expreeeiene Eye cente ct Gestures Teuelh If I H Ely iv QE39Q39EJ Ul39 i v39v 39 I m an 19 y I I I quot I Things that i like ebut my pa SE 939 m fall away ID m changei Imunieetien ie henverbal Things de net like elbeut my then peeple like ebeut 30 at their partner and never will change dislike 20 Things d net like elbeut my happens when we 7 ca mange think and telk elbeut the 7 i 7 TF IZEEE 20 we tienf t lillte f What lhelpene when we egggjr think and talk a let eheul the 313 that we die like Manage perpetual problems 69 same issues year after year part of our personality Solvable problems 31 Chapter 11 continued Four types of marital relationships Warm or friendly high at showing signs of affection low antagonism Tempestuous or stormy high on affection and antagonism Bland or empty shell low affection and antagonism Hostile or distressed low on affection but high on antagonism Levels of communication Superficial Personal Validating Each involves a level of risk Active listening Thursday December 24 y Paying close attention to what the other person is saying and giving feedback checking it out Gottman listener backchannels ways of letting the person talking know you39re listening with body language at the heart of who we are as humans we have a deep longing for belonging a desire to be loved and a craving for connection How do emotional connections develop Dr Dave39s pool theory of connection Relationships are built by adding to the pool cup by cup how do they lose water Neglectevaporation if connections are not continually strengthened we will naturally drift apart quotRelation dehydrationquot LoyaHyleaks Lack of commitment broken trust emotional and sexual affairs Dippingsaying something mean and nasty